How to Talk to Your Child About Their First OT Visit

If you've scheduled your child's first occupational therapy appointment, you might be wondering: What exactly do I tell them?

It's a question many parents ask, and it's completely normal to feel a little uncertain. But here's the good news: talking to your child about OT can actually be one of the most empowering conversations you have with them.

Why This Conversation Matters

In past generations, therapy wasn't talked about openly. But as we've evolved in our understanding of health and wellbeing, we've recognized something important: getting help when you need it is one of the healthiest things you can do.

The same is true for occupational therapy. When the days don't go as planned and you need support, you get it—so things can feel easier. Normalizing this idea early helps children grow into adults who know that asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

These days, kids talk about OT the same way they talk about music class or soccer practice. It's just another part of their week—and that's exactly as it should be.

The Power of Being Direct

Some parents worry that telling their child they're going to OT will make them think something is "wrong" with them. But here's what we've learned: kids usually only feel that way when we're not being direct and open about it.

When we tiptoe around getting help, or speak in hushed tones, or seem worried ourselves—that's when children pick up the message that something shameful is happening. Shame thrives in secrecy. Being straightforward and matter-of-fact actually supports your child in feeling empowered about getting the help they need.

What to Say (A Simple Script)

If your child is able to have a back and forth sentence conversation, here's a clear, honest way to talk about it:

"Tomorrow we're going to see an OT. Have you heard of OT before?"

(Pause and listen to their response)

"OT stands for occupational therapist. They help make the things we do every day easier by teaching or showing us new ways to do them. They help parents too, and they help you do the things you want and need to do."

At this point, you can connect it to their experience:

• You might ask: "Is there anything that feels hard for you right now?"

• Or if you've already discussed it: "Remember how we were talking about [big feelings/getting dressed/handwriting/eating/playing with friends]? Well, OT helps make that easier."

If Your Child Has Questions

Answer them honestly and simply. You don't need to provide a dissertation—just respond to what they're actually asking. Kids are often more matter-of-fact about these things than we expect.

Some children might ask:

• "Will it hurt?" → "No, you'll mostly play and try different activities."

• "Why do I have to go?" → "Because everyone learns differently, and OTs know lots of ways to help things feel easier."

• "Is something wrong with me?" → "Not at all! Lots of kids work with OTs. Everyone's brain and body work a little differently, and OTs help us figure out what works best for you."

For Younger or Non-Speaking Children

If your child is very young or doesn't use spoken language to communicate, you can still prepare them:

• Show them where you're going (a photo of the building or therapist, if available)

• Use simple language: "Tomorrow we're going to a new place to play and learn"

• Follow their lead in terms of how much information they seem interested in

• Trust that they'll understand what they need to when they get there

What Makes OT Different

It's worth noting that occupational therapy is collaborative and child-centered. Your OT will:

• Follow your child's interests and motivations

• Build on what your child can do

• Work with your family to make daily life feel better for everyone

• Respect your child as a whole person with their own preferences and pace

OT isn't about making your child "act differently." It's about understanding how they experience the world and finding strategies that genuinely help—not just mask what's hard.

The Bottom Line

Getting help is normal. Everyone needs different kinds of support at different times—and that includes kids. By being open and straightforward about OT, you're teaching your child one of life's most important lessons: that it's okay to need help, and it's smart to get it.

Your child is capable, whole, and deserving of support. OT is simply another resource in your family's toolkit—one that can make the hard days easier and the good days even better.

Have questions about your child's first visit? Don't hesitate to reach out. We're here to support your whole family.